Sexism is real

Guys just don't know how much sexism and harassments females have to deal with at work. Not much, but still, it frustrates me.

Men in power demean, and belittle women.
Somebody wanted me to tell customers, "If a women (referring to myself) can do it, so can you". I wanted to tell him that's sexism and that I was offended. Hello do we look dumb to you? But he was someone in power and I didn't have the guts to say it to his face.

(To defend myself, I had the best efficiency scores and was awarded customer success excellence award last year).

As a female service engineer, not only do we have to deal with the sexists and stereotypes from men at work. There are still men who think that women cannot be engineers.

And the mild harassment and the occasional sexual harassment shit we get. This is my 3rd or 4th encounter (and counting) since joining this company. Not mentioning my encounters from previous companies.

(1st - Mr R, 2nd - Mr M Soh, now 3rd- Mr MJ... and counting.)

I have been getting texts from a middle aged man almost everyday for the past 3 months. He is a safety trainer of a company that I frequent. He sends me (lame) jokes now and then. He is a father of 3.

At first I think he was just bored. I never reply to any of it.... just ignoring. But the texts didn't stop.. for 1 month.. then 2. Let's see how long he can continue huh. It's been 3 months. But I should tell him to stop texting me again.

Going back further, another customer from my previous previous company kept complaining about his wife and randomly asked if I am good in bed. Of course I wouldn’t answer and pass it off as ‘it is not for you to know’. I wondered if it is the dresses that I wore to work, or the pencil skirt... I must have been too smiley and approachable. Surely, I brought it upon myself...

My encounters are mild, but these experiences leave me with disturbance and disgust. I have so many moments of these that I forgotten some. We are living in an advanced country. Yet, workplace sexism is very real.

Maybe I look easy to some men. Maybe I should start kickboxing classes again. Maybe I start working on a bitch face look. But I need to get good survey scores from my customers. Life is an irony.